In A Black And White World, Living In The Shades Of Grey

          Whatever happened to the freedom of choice? How come we limit ourselves now the only two choices for anything at all? You are either Democrat or Republican, nothing in between. You're either right or you're wrong, there are no shades of grey. That's not the way the world works. That's not the way this country works. There are more than two options, there are more than two answers. In fact, there are a million different opinions. Not all of them right, not all of them are wrong, but a majority fall in the middle. Is it still possible to not just discuss those differences, but find a common middle ground? Or have we succumbed to the unwritten rule of not even considering a difference of opinion, and to lash out verbally, or even violently, against any who challenge your view of the world?


Column A or Column B


          If I criticize a Democratic president, I am automatically labeled a conservative. If I criticize a Republican president, I am automatically labeled a liberal. But what about all the other options? Over time I've criticize both presidents, I've been labeled as both a liberal and a conservative, and neither of those are correct. But what's worse than being instantly met with hate and/or anger because you are an assumed enemy? Being completely disregarded as someone who's opinion doesn't even matter once they find out you are not in either camp, but have decided to think for yourself. If they can't instantly label you, you are a joke and treated as such.

Beyond Politics


          This way of thinking stretches beyond the political realm, and extends into any decision that strays from the two "main stream" answers. Take prostitution. Now I am a happily married, and I can honestly say I've never even considered buying a "date" with a so called lady of the night. However, if I say prostitution should be legal, I am instantly thought to be a less than reputable man that is willing to pay for an evenings entertainment. Never mind the fact that I consider this a matter of treading on a woman's civil liberties, they don't even bother to ask that. Nope, let's not even consider that sex is legal, selling services for money is legal, but should these two legal exchanges cross paths then it's time to call the police! And let's not even get into the "you want that life for your daughter" failed argument. That's a post for another time.

You must be high


          The so called "war on drugs" is another good example. You must either be a user, or a narc. There is no middle ground. As much as I can sit here and say I've never used any kind of "drug" that was either prescribed from a licensed medical doctor or available over-the-counter at any drug or grocery store. So when I say I think we should end the war on drugs and make everything legal, it's again overtly obvious that I am a junkie just looking to get his fix; not someone that believes in personal freedom and the right to put whatever you want into your own body, so long as it's done without putting the safety of others in jeopardy (i.e. driving under the influence is still not tolerated). No! It's unimaginable that a sober person would form that kind of opinion, it's just the drugs talking.

The point & Mrs Daisy


          The drive this home, so to speak, we need to stop assuming every decision is a binary one. We need to not treat every idea that is different than ours as a threat against us personally. We need to listen. To process. To accept. To realize that we can find a middle ground, or abandon both our accepted and contradictory ideals for a completely new ideal we never even considered before. The world is not black and white, and mentioning those colors is in no way indicative of a racial comment. Learn to embrace other opinions, find common middle ground, and accept the fact that your answer may not be the best available option.

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Great article and we can all learn from these areas in life. There are too many people that have much hatred and that needs to stop. Thanks for the awesome posts.

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I'm a gradient person - it's never one or the other... it's everything in between. And it's those in betweens that make us unique. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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I can't agree more, definitely wonderful post, we all need to understand each others and accept our differences!! There shouldn't be just black and white, as well there isn't just one right answer! Good points!

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Great article! Like your points ! So true...thanks !

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Awesome post! So true , there seems to be no middle ground anymore. This makes it scary for more moderate people to voice their opinions , which leaves us with radical views. This is so dangerous!

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Great Article. Keep up the good work

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There are always gray areas! I love living the gray life. Thanks for your valuable insight.

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Great read, really agree nothing is ever black or white

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It is as if you are reading my mind. People need to lighten up. We all have a right to have an opinion. I absolutely love this post.

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The belief that everything in life is black and white is what causes distress.We need to acknowledge the existence of the grey areas in life also

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